Last week I (35F) came out as bi to my husband (36M). We have been together since we were 17/18 (18 years) and married for 13 years. I use BetterHelp for therapy and had just finished my text session with my therapist where we discussed me coming out to my husband. My husband noticed I was really emotional which isn’t really like me and asked what was wrong. I started blubbering and almost threw up telling him. I was full of shame and embarrassment as I poured my soul out to him. I felt so guilty… this isn’t what he signed up for. I felt like I had deceived him even though I didn’t really come to terms with my sexuality myself until the last few years. Anyway..He was very taken aback and didn’t expect for me to say that. He initially thought I was leaving him because of how upset I was. I assured him that was never a thought in my mind. I debated on whether or not to tell him because I thought “it doesn’t change how I feel about him.” But I couldn’t hold it in anymore. My urges to watch lesbian porn was getting really out of hand. I lean more towards physically attracted to women but have only ever had one real crush on a woman in my small town and never even spoke to her. My romantic feelings have always been towards men and I love a man’s touch. I expressed all of this to him. He took it amazingly well. We talked over the course of the next several days and he expressed that he wants to be open minded about my needs because he doesn’t want me to wake up one day regretting not experiencing anything with a woman. I told him I didn’t want to experience anything without him, so, we tried watching the porn I like together a few times and now we are talking about visiting a strip club together for something new and exciting to experience together. I will say I’m a little nervous about that thought. He has never been to one and neither have I. So this will be a first for us together and I hope neither of us end up jealous. Anyways. There’s my coming out story. Talking about it helps me so much. All the threads and comments I’ve been reading about different experiences and perspectives has been truly inspiring. Thank you to this wonderful community. I hope you don’t mind if I make myself at home here. ❤️