It does get called out and it does largely end up being downvoted, but goddamn it’s still so common. I saw a comment today basically saying that the OOP’s husband, who was literally sharing her nudes, would be comforted if he posted his side on the main sub or the sub for bi men. And like praising that as a good thing. It makes me feel so fucking gross. There’s always a call for sympathy for closeted men, and it’s always specifically just closeted men, in the face of whatever abhorrent behavior.

And then people are shocked that straight folks end up scared to date bi people and post asking questions about it. Or they throw fits when bi women express that we don’t want to date men. Sometimes it’s literally because of the way we see them actively tell on themselves online.

I feel so much safer on this sub.