It’s a bit embarrassing, but I (25F) really have no idea what to expect when dating men in general, much less sex. I’ve only ever dated and been with women before. The guy I’m seeing is also bi, so it does feel a little more comfortable than I think I would otherwise, but I’m still stressed out about it. It seems like this is a bit of a less common situation, so I haven't been able to find any real advice about this.

I’ve struggled with vaginismus for a long time and while it’s manageable, the idea of having to explain it to someone new makes me so anxious. Especially because I have no real idea how a cis man will react or how to talk about it with him. On top of that I have no idea what the norm is grooming wise, if I’d be expected to know what to do, all that sort of thing. It feels like everything that I never thought twice about in my previous relationships is suddenly so overwhelming.

I felt a bit odd posting about this elsewhere since it feels like a more bi-specific issue than just having sex for the first time. I’m not a virgin by any means, I’m just out of the loop it feels like on what I’m getting into, if that makes sense?