Hello bisexual sisters. I don’t know if this type of post is allowed here but I hope it will be. I’m a bisexual man and I just realized there isn’t much discord between bi women and bi men, I think maybe because our experiences are kinda different and when I hear bi women talking about theirs I don’t relate as much. But I recently stumbled across a lesbian subreddit and saw a post where every comment was trash talking bisexual women very angrily, and I was like woaahh!! And that detonated this post. I want to know your experience in these topics and maybe find a common ground for bisexual men and women

How are you treated by homosexuals?

Gay men don’t take bi men seriously and are very dismissive towards us. They’ll sleep with a married bisexual cheater and claim to have turned a “straight” man gay. They’ll have sex with us but won’t date us

How are you treated by heterosexuals?

Straight women do not like bisexual men, and I think it’s fine whatever you do you. But for some reason no one believes someone can actually like women? They think bisexual men are gay and bisexual women straight. However in my experience I have been greatly supported by straight friends (male and female) more so than queer people

Do you relate to the LGBT community?

I personally don’t. The bi invisibility is real, even though we’re supposedly the biggest in numbers. Without getting too political I want to say that bisexual men are too large and broad of a demographic to fit in one political ideology, and the LGBT won’t accept that. In my experience it seems like bisexual men are not very involved in the queer community outside of hook ups. And yes, there are thousands of conservative bisexual men and many of them fetishize their closetedness

Do you feel the need to come out?

I would imagine bisexual women feel uncomfortable coming out because of the whole MFF threesome thing, but correct me if I’m wrong. For bisexual men, many of us don’t come out because it’s easier to live a happily straight life. Especially masc guys who just don’t resonate with gay men and queer pop culture, homophobia aside. I personally don’t have a coming out experience, I just stopped having the need to hide it without announcing it. If the subject comes up, I do confirm my bisexuality

Bi-cycle

I think when bisexual men start craving other men it’s such a strong feeling maybe because it’s so taboo to be bisexual (not so much gay). It becomes like a mischief, a secret devilry even if we’re openly bisexual. I guess it’s the thrill of the forbidden. Do bisexual women also get this thrill?

Stereotypes

Is there a stereotype about bisexual women that can often be true? As a bisexual man I have to accept that some bi men do cheat. As with all stereotypes, obviously not all do. But it is a problem with the bisexual male demographic. Most bisexual men are closeted and some of them do cheat on their girlfriends and wives. You’ll find many of them here on Reddit and I even sometimes get messages from bi men trying to emotionally/sext cheat with me. I refuse to let this stereotype take over me and decline. I want to emphasize that not all bisexual men are cheaters. But the bisexual stereotype I do resonate with that bisexual women find offensive is the unicorn. I would be so happy if I could be a MF couple’s unicorn :( many bi men would

Do bisexual women like bisexual men?

Bisexual men love bisexual women, but we’ve heard many bisexual women don’t feel the same way and it’s heartbreaking. Hopefully this is just another stereotype

I wanna hear your experiences and perspectives on these topics and I hope this post is allowed here. This is not a survey, I’m not trying to break rule #4 this is just to create discord