So.. . . coming out to friends and coworkers. How does one do that? Does one ever do that? I’ve read different comments from people about their friend’s reactions when they find out they are lesbian/bi. And the friend usually asks - wait, did you have a crush on me? And in these comments, the OP and the commenters are like - NO, it’s not like that. I didn’t have crushes on everybody

But it IS like that for me. Being mostly closeted bi, and little real experience with WLW relationships, I got crushes on everybody. Friends, coworkers. . . So, I worry. Thoughts? There was some discussion with a coworker yesterday (about boobies) (purely work related even) and then she was talking about how I was always noticing bobbies and how maybe there was something Freudian about that.

Yeah …. And today things are different with her. Our conversations seem … deeper. Almost flirty. I had a little crush on her. Now I have a bigger one, Yeesh.

But I need friends and she is becoming a good one. I need friends WAY more than I need a lover/girlfriend. (Currently trying to get the boyfriend to be an ex and move out… been working on that for two years)

I certainly don’t want to lose any of my very few friends when they find out I’m bi. I doubt I would lose a friend for that but if they found out I thought of them in a sexual way, I might. Or at least things would be weird and different. Ugh. Anyway, this is quite rambly but . . . thoughts?