so this weekend, i went to a lesbian bar, one i go to pretty frequently, to basically just hang out and such. i’ve made some amazing friends there, and it’s really cozy!

i’m a bisexual woman, 22 y/o, and i’ve been fully out for a couple of months now.

anyway, i was striking up a conversation with this one woman and we were having a good time, just talking about anything and everything. but then we started talking about previous relationships and i mentioned my only ex, which is a man. and she seemed sort of confused by it, so i clarified to her that i’m bisexual, after she said “aren’t you a lesbian?”

and once i had told her that i’m, in fact, bi and not a lesbian, she straight up told me that i do not belong in that bar. the conversation ended right after that, and i was honestly pretty much speechless for a few moments.

i totally understand that lesbians want lesbians-only spaces, and i would never ever try to infiltrate those spaces. but this bar isn’t one of those spaces.. the people who work there (who i’ve befriended over the few months i’ve gone there) all know that i’m bi, they’re all lesbians and have never had an issue with me going there.

it hurt A LOT to hear her say that i “don’t belong here”, to be brutally honest, i became a sobbing damn mess once i got back home.

and though i’m bi, i do prefer women over men, if that counts for anything…

so where do i belong, then? where do i, as a bisexual, get to hang out and feel like i also have a safe space?