Hi everyone. I'm actually not THAT old, just old enough to have had an answering machine in college and a walkman in high school.

So anyway down to business...I had my bi awakening 20 years ago, shoved it down the old memory hole and pretended it doesn't exist for 19 years. In the last year I told my husband and one friend that I'm bisexual. And nobody else.

I want to be bisexual, like openly. I just think it would be amazing to be perceived the way I really am. But I'm afraid to do it. I have so much shame from both sides: first, there's your run-of-the-mill internalized homophobia/biphobia. And then there's imposter syndrome, like great just what the world needs is another middle aged white lady who has only dated men saying she's bisexual.

Maybe I'm asking for encouragement? Those of you who have done this: how did you overcome the shame and imposter syndrome?