Vent/thought processing/emotional processing ahead:

I don't know what exactly you'd call my situation as I have come out of the bi closet to reclaim my sexuality for the second time in my life. Trying to date women while you are married to a man - you might as well be super man wearing kryptonite undies. I mildly breakout in hives with online dating. How do you portray yourself online that feels honest and true but is also just flashy enough to get someone to actually read your information?
Maybe I'm too old school and my preference to meet people in person is considered taboo? Maybe my heteronormative secret identity life is to boring for other qeers? Maybe on the qeer scale I'm a spinster at the age of 40? I'm average in looks ( I think a little plain at times), not over weight - although I do carry extra junk in my trunk. A twisted sense of humor and a heart of pure silver (not a fan of gold). Anyone else out there feel they are beating their head against a rock? How'd you over come the deflated defeated feeling?