I am not the OP. OP has deleted their profile and the post is gone but it was originally posted to r/relationship_advice. I have used the wayback machine to recover it.

The post earlier today about the guy losing his shit made me think of this one, as I expected it to be a repost of the below.

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Capybara fact: They express themselves in a range of ways: purring, barking, cackling, whistling, squealing, whining, grunting and teeth-chattering. Each social group has a different harmonic sound.

trigger warning: explosive diarrhea

I [26f] did something absolutely humiliating in front of a guy [30m] I am dating and his parents. I’m taking advice to keep going with him/move past it. Passing that advice to anyone who may need it here. June 10 2021

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So I haven’t really left my apartment for a week because of something humiliating that happened recently with a guy I really like who I’m dating. I came to Reddit desperate for unbiased input and got some very conclusive advice.

Life is too short to beat yourself up over dating hiccups where you embarrass yourself with something you couldn’t control.

Don’t hole up and drop someone great just because you’re embarrassed about a situation in dating is the advice.

If you feel like you have done something humiliating in your dating and have no hope… please read my story bc I can almost guarantee you whatever you did is not as humiliating as this.

So I’ve (26f) been dating a new guy (30m) for five months. I like him, and he invited me to his parents house for the long Memorial Day weekend. Sounded fun, kinda taking the relationship to the next step. I was excited.

So the parents order takeout Friday night for everyone and it’s this extremely spicy Indian food and I’m like hm okay not my first choice but I’m going to try everything to be gracious.

Wake up early Saturday at his parents house and I’m like yeah that’s odd, I feel a bit off but maybe I just need breakfast. Meanwhile the guy I’m dating and his father have planned a pre-breakfast run and the dad is like really, really laying on the pressure for me to join in the kitchen.

Reluctantly, I put on running shorts and what not and head out to the driveway with the two of them.

We start running. After about 15 minutes I had fallen a bit behind and was realizing something was very not okay in my body. Everyone knows the not okay feeling and accompanying dread I’m talking about.

The dad slowed down to shuffle next to me. “you okay? need a break? Woah you look really white in the face”.

At that moment I looked at him and it hit me that I was truly in a bad situation. We were at least a mile from their house. Standing on a fully quaint, tree lined residential street with no public bathrooms or even woods. And I was not okay.

I stopped shuffling. The guy I’m seeing responded to his dads shout and ran back and put his hand on my back (I was hunched over).

All I remember is saying don’t fucking touch me right now. At a point of no return and unable to fake graciousness in front of this guys father.

“Leave me. Fast. Just run ahead I’ll meet you back at the house”.

Did they listen? You bet not. They insisted on staying and calling his mom to drive their car to pick us up. I couldn’t even speak. I tried to walk towards a tree but it was too late.

I fully shit in the middle of the road. Not like a cute shit I could hide in my shorts. The kind of unforgivable and unspeakable shit where you have to flush the toilet a few times.

A small or maybe large piece of my soul and dignity was left behind on that street a few weekends ago. I fled the weekend trip early after my shower making up an excuse. I have told the guy since that I just can’t face him in person yet. Someone please help.

if you were dating someone who liked you a lot but then shit herself in front of you and your family and fled the scene with a fake excuse, is there anything she could do after to make things okay enough to continue seeing one another? 😣

That’s what I posed to a bunch of strangers. The resounding answer was surprisingly yes I’d still date her, as long as she handled it with a smile and sense of humor. So I’m taking that advice and crawling out of my shame to see this guy again. Anyone else who shit in front of their significant others father should probably do the same.

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UPDATE: 26F humiliated myself in front of the guy [30M] I was seeing and his family (💩😣) July 21 2021

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Hey everyone! checking in here with an update to this wonderful sub full of people who talked sense into me earlier this summer.

TLDR. If you don’t remember me, I am the one who explosively shit herself in the middle of a quiet residential street around 8am Memorial Day weekend. On a run with the guy I had been seeing for 5 months and his father.

I holed up in my apartment for a week after and came here out of desperation for advice.

I am really going to spare the details here, but my original post is available if anyone cares to dive in.

So I mentioned the last time I posted that the guy - and his wonderful mom - had continued to reach out to me the week following the incident. After I had made up an excuse and left the trip early.

Taking all your advice, I garnered the guts to meet up with him. He came to my apartment and brought dinner and also a bag full of anti-diarrhea otc meds, tums, and - honestly most impressively - a new pair of my favorite running shorts in a color I like and the correct size.

He gave me a huge hug and said that the whole shit myself thing and then suddenly not having me in his life immediately after made him realize how invested he is in the relationship.

I cried. I think I was also laughing. But there were certainly tears.

We’ve been dating since. I really, really like him (❤️!) I even saw his parents again last week when they visited him in the city we both live in. Turns out his dad did go to therapy.

Kidding.

I will forever be made fun of by him so long as we stay together, but I’m okay with that.

if you ever shit yourself in front of your significant other and their father, please pay attention to how everyone else handles the situation. I was so caught up in my own embarrassment that I almost let a really great person and family go.

Thank you again to everyone who helped get me out of my shame!!! ❤️

Reminder, I am not the OP.