I am not OP! This is a repost.

The original postwas on r/askmenover30 3 years ago.

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Will I regret taking the better job or not chasing the girl I love?

I (22M) am looking for the perspective of older men who have made these decisions and regret (or don't) in hindsight. Essentially I am in my last semester of college and am having trouble deciding:

A: Do I move back to my home country and take the job that is significantly better pay and a great career start. I also get to be much closer to my family whom I really miss.

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B: Do I stay in foreign country and chase after the woman I love. 1 year relationship ended because I said I might be moving home and I wasn't yet sure if I love her. After 2 months apart I am pretty convinced she is the one. I always resisted telling her I loved her because I was afraid of the commitment. But now I am more afraid of going through life without her after seeing both sides. It's over now, and may never happen again, but I think there is a chance if I stay.

I am trying to be as logical as possible but my emotions are heavily clouding my judgement I can tell. Has anyone made this decision before and how has it impacted the rest of your life? Are you happy? Was it the right decision?

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Relevant comments:

“Job . End of conversation”

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“Job. You screwed the pooch with the girl already. Plus you’re young and have yet to realize there will be several “the ones”.”

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“You're talking about turning down a job opportunity to try to get back with a woman that you broke up with two months ago. If you were married to or had kids with her whether or not to move would be open for debate, but a single 22 year old guy doesn't choose where to live based on what his girlfriend might like.”

~ OP responds:

Yeah, it sounds crazier when I read it rather than think it. Every time I have seen her since it has been like we were together. In some physical aspects it has been even better. She tells me multiple times that she loves me, but she can't be with me right now. Its completely mixed signals and wrecking my head, but the truth is I would come back to her without hesitation if she wanted me. I have dated a lot of girls and never expected to meet the "one" until my late 20s absolute earliest. But she is something special.

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Update post from 3 years ago.

UPDATE: Will I regret taking the better job or not chasing the girl I love?

Thanks to everyone who gave me their advice and my apologies for being slightly rude and challenging virtually every comment (being in a bad mood with nothing better to do is a bad combo). I should have gone with the overwhelmingly obvious consensus of pick the job and the family. But as we all know, who listens to other people's advice anyway, especially one with sense. I opted to chase the girl and it didn't work out. I'm angry at myself for being a fool but I think it was a mistake I had to make. I got lucky though and am going to be involved in a startup; my risk tolerance is pretty high now that I don't give a fuck. I'll be ok in the end. Either it works and that's great or I go broke and my parents will have to spot me a flight back home where I can go to lick my wounds and hopefully come out stronger and wiser.

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I AM NOT OP. This is a repost.