I am not OP. This is a repost.

The original post is on r/askwomenover30 in February 2022.

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So, I found a nude of a friend online. Should I tell her?

I found a nude of a friend whom I have known for 10 years, but have not spoken to in probably 5. I did a image search to see if there was a collection, or if this was a one off, in case she was doing an only fans or something and I should mind my own business.

Well it seems it is a single pic probably taken by a partner of hers. She is a very attractive woman, but very modest and intelligent, fairly traditional. I don't assume she consented to this. Should I try and reach out so she can try and scrub the image from a small amount of sites hosting the image, or should I just let it be? Thank you for any advice.

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Relevant comments:

“I would 100% tell her no hesitation. You would probably be saving her from far more uncomfortable situations, no matter how you came across it.”

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“Given where she is now, "telling her" might just be the "far more uncomfortable situation" she would hope to avoid! Given the amount of content on the internet, unless this picture is trending up hugely - the chances someone who matters to her sees it again is incredibly low.

However, telling her could introduce her to the fear of that happening, every. single. day. Imagine the anxiety.

Do read up on some other threads here about how hard it is to remove a picture from these sites. It's like playing whack-a-mole (there was recently a thread & update on r/relationshipadvice about a husband & wife trying to remove a video from the web and getting nowhere despite having spent months & thousands of dollars on lawyers etc).”

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The update was posted 4 days later.

Update: Found a friend's nude pic online.

I decided to contact her. It turns out I didn't have her number anymore. So I tried Facebook, no profile anymore. So I thought about it and reached out to her sister on FB to put us in touch. Got a call today.

She was grateful that I got in touch to let her know. She was unaware the pic was online. She took it really well and was relieved it wasn't something worse. I'm not sure what she will plan to do from here, but I'm glad to have told her. Some folks said they wouldn't want to know. I considered that. But realized its something she needed to know, so she could make an informed choice about her own future.

And even though the circumstances were weird, I also got to catch up with her and talk about other things, and that was nice. Thank you for all the advice.

Stay discerning, friends

Edit: Thank you for the positive support and encouragement, yall know how to make a guy feel good about himself :)

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