I am not the original poster. This is a repost.

Originally posted by u/JezziNilo 5 year ago on r/legaladvice.

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Parents hired people to kidnap me. My brother ended up pointing a gun at them. What do I need to do to get emancipated? [October 4 2017]

I am 16 years and 2 months old. My parents believe I am a disaster and unruly child. But they are delusional parents. My mother has bipolar disorder and does not take her meds regularly and I'm sure my father has undiagnosed mental health problems as well.

They have been wanting to send me to a camp for troubled teenagers for a while and two people came to take me without me knowing. I thought they were kidnapping me. I screamed and my brother who was at home (but wasn't supposed to be) took my father's gun and threatened to kill them and that was when they told us who they are and why they are here. We called the police but they did nothing after they talked to our parents.

I do not trust my parents anymore and I want to get emancipated. Where do I start and what documents do I need to prepare? Do I have a case? I am working part time right now. I don't think my parents will object, they will be happy to get rid of me.

Edit: It seems like emancipation is unlikely. It sucks but it's the reality and I should accept that. Please if you have any other advice for me to maybe change my guardian or somehow reduce the influence that my parents have over me, or anything that helps. I'll appreciate it.

Edit again: Can you please stop referring to me as "he". I'm female.

Relevant Comments:

• I make about $500 per week making YouTube videos. It takes 2-3 hours of my time every day. Surely that's enough but I can do more? My friend's parents will let me rent a room at their place for $250 a month. I cycle everywhere so I have no transportation cost.
• I can make videos wherever I live. I've had a stable income for the past 1.5 years and it's been increasing every month. That is more than I can say for my parents.
• I teach makeup and style on youtube. Just not the type that they like. This is what started everything. I tried playing along in the past but they don't fall for it anymore.
• According to them I'm misbehaving because I'm not as girly as they want me to be. They keep saying I'm not behaving like a proper girl. I see it as kidnapping when someone grabs me, puts a blindfold on me, restrains me and forcibly takes me somewhere I don't know. What do you call it if it's not kidnapping?
• So only rich kids can get [emancipation]? I called the department of child and family and they said it's within my parents right to send me to a troubled teen camp for whatever reason they see fit and they can do nothing to stop it.
• [The kidnappers] were there on orders of my parents. So it wasn't breaking and entering. They had a key.
• They took away my room's door for example to not give me any privacy. They locked my window and blocked it completely so I have no sunlight and no view of outside. They take my stuff all the time. My clothes, my bed, books, electronics. Things that I pay for myself. They take away my contact lenses and good glasses and only let me wear a heavy ugly one even though I bought the other one myself. And all of it for NO REASON. They keep insulting me and tell me I'm a troubled kid without any reason.
• I have $15,000 in the bank. I can afford a lawyer if my parents let me see one because I'm permanently grounded right now. School counselor says my parents have the right to do the things they do and I should trust that they know what's best for me better than I do.

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Update: parents who hired people to kidnap me ended up sending me to a troubled teen camp. I'm back after 6 months. [May 27 2018]

I sadly don't have any good news. Just two weeks after posting that my parents ended up sending me to a camp. The camp that they sent me to was using the same property and facilities of an older camp which was closed down due to abuse of teenagers.

The place wasn't like anything I imagined it would be. I tried to cooperate and pretend everything is normal but they see compliance as a form of resistance. They also see non-compliance as a form of resistance. Whatever you do they see it as resistance. Their formula is that we were defective people and the only way to fix us is to first break us down completely and then rebuild according to their standards.

Until they see you have mental breakdowns they don't agree that you're ready to relearn everything and change, so they continue the pressure. Even when I was doing everything they wanted they weren't convinced. It took maybe 3 months for them to be convinced that I'm broken down and they did break my spirit to be honest. I got to the point that I didn't care about anything anymore, I just wanted it to end.

They knew about my YouTube channel and they wanted me to login and delete all my videos and delete the channel. They had a girl who pretended to work in the kitchens to befriend me only to see if I truly hate my old self or not. She'd tell me that she watched my videos and she was insulting me left and right and was saying horrible things about me and my brother (also YouTuber) and I was supposed to agree with her, if I took things personally they knew I was acting and wasn't ready.

They got me when I was at my lowest and they got me to log them into the account. The next day they brought me in front of a computer and showed me that my old password wasn't working anymore and told me that they've deleted my account. I was thinking all the time and effort I placed there was gone.

From there I didn't care anymore and they were convinced they've achieved their goal. So things became easier. They'd teach me to be a nice girly Christian girl who wants to raise babies and would never touch a boy until she is married to someone her parents pick. It was like they were sending me into a children's book. Then my dad came and brought me back home.

When I got back my brother actually told me that my YouTube account wasn't deleted. Since I was using his email for recovery he got a notification when I logged in from the camp because it was a new place. So he figured this isn't good news and jumped and changed the password. So my account is intact. The assholes at the camp were lying.

I don't know if I'm the same person or not or how much I've changed but I really hate my parents. I hate them so much that a year ago I couldn't even imagine such a level of hatred is possible. There are 448 days until I'm 18 and I'm counting every single day until this is over and then I'm leaving with my brother and we're never looking back.

My big brother is the only positive thing in my life and the only person who I trust. When I was gone he went to police, CPS, even talked to a lawyer and a PI to find a way to get me back but nothing worked. My parents came after my $15,000 which I had at a joint account with my brother in order to pay for this program that they sent me to. But my brother actually ended up moving the money to an account only under his own name so parents couldn't access it. He continued to post the videos that I had prepared in the pipeline when I was gone so I continued to make more money and didn't lose subscribers.

That's it for me. From what I understand my parents couldn't afford to keep me there anymore that's why they pulled me out otherwise the place wanted more time with me.

Relevant Comments (From the BoLA crosspost):

• I was feeling very hopeless but my brother, my fans and you guys made a lot of difference. Most people are great I'm just unfortunate to be born to parents who are horrible.
• In the program I was in a lot of doubts about myself but that's what they want you to feel. They made me write down many times a day that I was a horrible person, I deserved to be punished and things like that. It eventually gets to you. I'm now trying to find my old self back.
• All [my parents] care about is their status in the neighborhood and among friends. I feel like when both their kids leave them it won't look good at all.

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Reminder: I am not the original poster. This is a repost.

Originally posted by u/JezziNilo 5 year ago on r/legaladvice.

OOP hasn't commented on Reddit since her responses to the BoLA crosspost. I hope she made it out and is living her best life, having totally forgotten about these posts.