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The original poster is u/nomorecatstogive. Originally posted six years ago on r/relationships.

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[M/31] I think I killed my girlfriend's [F/27] cat...and it ran off with my engagement ring

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/389oy8/m31_i_think_i_killed_my_girlfriends_f27_catand_it/

Throwaway. My GF loves reddit more than me.

My GF loves cats. Obsessed. Not in a creepy way, otherwise I woulda high tailed it out the door a long time ago. She never got to have a cat when she was a little girl because her brother was allergic, so her whole childhood, she waited until she was an adult so she could have a cat. She got a black kitten when she was in college, and has had it ever since. It's her best friend. Not gonna give the name or gender, don't want to give too much away in case she finds this...

Anyway, we've been dating a few years, and I've decided to propose. I had this whole idea about sneaking into her apartment before she got home, tying the ring to the cat's collar and when she got there, she'd find the ring on the cat and I'd jump out and propose. Well, when I got there, I guess I left the door open, because I searched EVERYWHERE in this tiny apartment and the cat is nowhere to be found. It's an indoor cat, declawed, and has never been outside before. My GF always says if the cat got out, she'd kill herself because the cat would surely die. (hoping she was joking...)

The worst part is, I tied the damn ring to the damn cat before it escaped. So, somewhere, there's a lost cat with a 6k engagement ring around it's neck.

My GF comes home in two hours. If she comes home to no cat, I honestly think she'd break up with me. This cat means everything to her. I feel so bad, I've been jingling the treat bag and calling it's name for the past hour, but it hasn't come back.

We visit a cat shelter at the mall sometimes, and she always says one of the cats looks EXACTLY like her cat...I was thinking about running out and buying that one to replace hers until (if) it comes back, but that might be too crazy. I'm freaking out, if this cat doesn't come back, not only have a I lost a ring, I'll make my girlfriend severely unhappy.

tl;dr: Tried to propose to my GF by tying the ring to it's collar, the cat escaped and my girlfriend will be home soon...what to do?

EDIT: Still no cat...girlfriend will be home soon. Considering calling her and telling her everything, but I think I might just wait until she gets here. Freaking out. Thanks for the responses.

EDIT #2: Cat is declawed because it had a scratching problem as a kitten, split my GF's cheek and scarred her. I assure you my GF is not a monster.

UPDATE: don't really know how updates work here so I'll just post this here. Still no sign of the cat. My GF came home from work last night and to my surprise, when I explained everything she was really calm about the situation. I guess the cat has gotten out before (she never told me this) and it came back a few days later. She's still beside herself with worry but thankfully she didn't blame me. We were out for awhile last night looking for the cat but no luck. Getting up early to try again this morning, but she's hopeful the cat will be waiting outside the door like last time.

Thank you for all the responses, I didn't get a chance to update last night because we were talking/searching for the cat but I really appreciate it. I've been looking through the options a lot of you have suggested, as well as stuff online, and I hope it helps.

To the people who have been chastising my GF for declawing the cat, I asked her why she did (I admit im not an expert on cat related matters...) and she actually started crying and said she regretted it, she was a mess the entire time the cat was in the vet and I guess her mom put serious pressure on her to do it after it scratched her face open. She was in college when she got the kitten so I guess she wasn't allowed to keep it unless she got it declawed. I can see its a hot topic in some of the comments but believe me, my GF has provided a really loving home for the cat and probably loves it more than me...her mother can be incredibly controlling (believe me, I know this to be true)

But thank you all, I'll try to update you if/when we find the cat.

Also, didn't get around to telling her about the proposal. So that's one thing she still doesn't know about. If the cat comes back without the ring/doesn't come back it's more important that the cat has been found for her.

Relevant Comments:

• Hey guys, thanks for the support/advice. I put out some stuff the cat likes (toys/water bowl/blanket) so hopefully it'll come back. It's been raining like mad and I've been out in the woods for the last hour trying to find it. I took another look around the apartment but from I've seen, no dice. My GF should be home in a few minutes so...we'll see how it goes.

• She got the cat declawed because, from what I know, it had a severe scratching problem. She tried hours of behavioral therapy/bought scratching posts/whatever cat owners do to prevent scratching, but the kitten was feral and it scratched her up so bad it cut her cheek open, she still has the scar years later But she loved the cat too much to let it go. I appreciate your advice but I don't think getting the cat's claws off was a crime, it was either that or that cat was going back to the shelter.

  (UPDATE)[M/31] I think I killed my girlfriend's [F/27] cat...and it ran away with my engagement ring

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/38lyd1/updatem31_i_think_i_killed_my_girlfriends_f27/

Hey everyone. First off, thank you so much for your responses/PMs, there were so many helpful suggestions and tips about cats that I didn't even know about so thanks for that.

Kitty came back early this morning. The apartment my GF lives in has a porch under the front steps and when she went to take the trash out the cat came out of the porch. I don't think it was under there the whole time or not (BELIEVE ME, I CHECKED THOROUGHLY) but it was covered in muck and dirt and wet from the rain we've had. My GF instantly started crying and took the cat in to wash it down. She played hookey from work because she was so damn happy the cat was safe.

No ring - must've fallen off the cat when it was running around. The string I used to tie it was still on the collar, by some miracle, and my GF noticed so I had to explain. She was already pretty emotional from finding the cat, so when I told her I was gonna propose she kind of did a weird laugh/giggle/sob sort of deal. It was adorable. But also really sad, I wish I could've been able to give her that ring and I will be eternally kicking myself for being so fucking dumb.

So I got down on a knee and asked, promising I'd get her a ring as soon as I could afford to. She said yes and then we both started crying. Then, she looked me dead in the eye and said something like, "The next time you think about doing something stupid...just don't."

So I guess I learned my lesson. I lost the ring but more importantly, kitty is back safe and sound (and clean) and I know have the most amazing fiancee known to mankind. I'm not going to call myself the luckiest guy in the world for obvious reasons....but I'm the happiest sap on earth right now

Thanks again, everyone. And to the people who said this sounded like a sitcom, if any of you end up (or are) being tv writers I expect to see an episode dedicated to me! haha

tl;dr: Found the cat, no ring...but i'm now happily engaged!

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Reminder: I am not the original poster. This is a repost sub.

The original poster is u/nomorecatstogive. Originally posted six years ago on r/relationships.