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Original post by u/Fafrdr . Originally posted on r/relationships 6 years ago.

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My [16F] father [59M] acts creepy towards me. Should I tell my brother [28M] ? He is my guardian.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4djfm8/my_16f_father_59m_acts_creepy_towards_me_should_i/

My mother died of cancer when I was 7. At that time my father was nowhere to be found, he had left my mother when I was less than one years old. I grew up with my mom and older brother. When my mom died my brother became my guardian. He took good care of me and always made me feel safe and comfortable. He has been mother and father and brother for me at the same time.

Two years ago my father came back and asked to be a part of our lives again. He said that he's changed and wants to make things right. He initially used to come around once a week for a few hours and it was nice. However recently in the past two months, he is acting creepy which makes me uncomfortable.

He texts me about my looks all the time. Tells me I look like a complete woman now. It makes me feel weird. Last week he asked me about my sex life which I'm not comfortable talking to him about it. He asked if I watch porn and if I do, what positions I like. I mean this is creepy right? I don't like it. My brother talked to me about sex but it was about safety and consent and things like that. Never these details that my father asks.

I want him to stop these things, and that's all he talks about. Honestly I want him to stay away from me I don't like him, he gives me bad vibes. I know he's my father but I don't see him as family. He's just another person to me, a creepy person that makes me uncomfortable.

Should I tell my brother about these things and ask him to keep my father away? He has a good relationship with my brother, they've become close in recent months.

tl;dr: My father is being creepy and I hate it. What should I do?

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Update - My [16F] father [59M] acts creepy towards me. Should I tell my brother [28M] ? He is my guardian.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/4dxmdu/update_my_16f_father_59m_acts_creepy_towards_me/

I told my brother everything and showed him all the texts as almost all of you told me to do so. He was shocked. For a few minutes I couldn't say what he was thinking but after that he told me that I should have told him sooner, and that he will make sure our father never bothers us again. For a moment I thought he was upset at me but he was really furious at our father.

He asked our father to come over and told me to remain in my room until he leaves. They ended up having a big fight and they were loud which I could hear. Father was yelling that a parent has a right to raise his daughter as he sees fit, brother told him that he doesn't even know how to spell the word parent. He eventually left. He sent me a text that "your brother is way over his head, don't choose him over your own father". I replied (with my brother's permission) that "I'll choose him over a thousand sperm donors like you. I don't want to see you ever again". And then I blocked his number.

I'm very happy that my brother did this. I feel much better and safer now. He's always made me feel safe. When he has his own kids I'm sure he will be the most amazing father in the world as he has been one for me.

He said that he'll also inform the police and school, and if my father tries anything I should tell him immediately to maybe look for some legal way to keep him away.

I just hope that my sperm donor of a father stays away from us forever.

tl;dr: I told my brother and he confronted our father and told him to stay away and never contact us again. I blocked his number and social media.

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Reminder before commenting - I am not the OP. This is a repost sub.

Original post by u/Fafrdr . Originally posted on r/relationships 6 years ago.