I am not the original poster.

The original poster u/abcanonxyzanon. Posted 3 years ago in r/legaladvice

TW: Sexual harassment

Made a terrible mistake and I may lose everything. Coworker suing me.

https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/a1krwx/ma_made_a_terrible_mistake_and_i_may_lose/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

Using anon account to protect myself. I am in the Medical field and I got close to another coworker who is not in the same field but also a Medical professional (below me).

We went out for drinks as a group and I thought we hit it off. Went home with her and we had sex. She immediately regretted it and left. Her Excuse was ' you dont shit where you eat'

Saw her at work, we spoke a little bit and she said "that can never happen again and we should stop contacting each other" Later I found out she had a boyfriend.

This made me very angry. Did something stupid and said along the lines if you wont sleep with again or cut off contact am telling your guy. (It was a joke) I have to say I was texting her more than she was replying.

I sent her photos of my self and she said I crossed the line. But read it a sort of joking way. Sent other pics and there was no reply for days.

I went to her floor and she was not there. So I tried calling and texting multiple times with no answer. I finally get a message from her saying she is going to HR and will be speaking to a lawyer. Accusing me of threats and harassment. Thought she was joking but I got a call from someone saying they are her lawyer.

I have worked so hard to get where I am. I am an international employee on a working Visa and have been to this country for a few years. I am scared and trying to figure out what to do. Please help me, how can I better approach this?

*sorry English is not my first language and am nervously typing this.

Update to my last post about Hospital coworker suing me for sexual harassment

https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/a3tz6k/boston_ma_update_to_my_last_post_about_hospital/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

I want to take this opportunity to apologize to anyone I may have offended by my post last week. I read every comment(was too shocked and embarrassed by my ignorance to reply) I get it. I was very wrong. Although I don't think I deserved the death threats in my messages.

When I got a letter from her attorney I wrote back apologizing for the disrespect and my rude messages. What I thought was a joke, was not funny. My friends although supportive, called me out on my harassment. I am a Medical professional and should have known better. I won't blame it on my culture( I am from Indian/Pakistan). I am in a foreign country and I know I have to abide by the rules. I was unfortunately suspended(will keep details private to protect myself) but not fired. Moving forward, I have spoken to the women in my family, and i am considering therapy to help better myself. I am willing to show that am working on myself and very sorry for the hurt I caused.

*Biggest mistake was not getting my own lawyer like everyone suggested.

Thanks again and happy holidays to you all.