The original post was made by u/throw_awaystepbro on r/AmItheAsshole

AITA for not wanting to share room with step-brother anymore after he came out?

My dad got married over a year ago. His wife moved in with her son who’s same age as me (16). It’s a two bedroom house so “Steven” moved into my room too. It didn’t bother me before because I was mostly with my mom and my dad only on weekends.

My mom got called out of state for work and she’s not gonna be back for months so I’m now with him full time. I’ve met Steven a few times but now being here all the time I notice weird stuff.

There’s bathroom in my room and he literally gets out NAKED every single time even when I was already in the room before he went in.

I always tell him “what the f*ck” and he says sorry but always does it. Now I just leave the room when he showers. When I play videogames he’ll come sit right next to me and we’re pressed right against eachother.

Theres more space on the couch so it bothers me that he does that. Other times he’ll be talking to me and put his hand right on my lap but like not move it.

Idk it’s weird for me because I don’t like being touched but he’s always super touchy with me no matter how many times I tell him I hate it.

What’s made it really uncomfortable is when I change or something in the room. He straight up watches me and it creeps me out so now I go do that in the bathroom too.

It’s always weird when he’s around and I just don’t like it. And he ALWAYS wants to be around me.

He came out 2 months ago and now some stuff makes sense. It’s more awkward because I feel like he’s into me or something.

Still stares if he comes in when I’m changing my clothes but acts like he wasn’t, gets naked around me when he’s changing.

So I told my dad I don’t wanna share my room with him anymore and said why. My dad doesn’t think it’s wrong the way he is but let me turn the basement downstairs into my own room when I asked him.

It was a tv room we never used and it had lots of space for my bed and all my other stuff. Steven’s mad now that i don’t wanna share room with him.

He says I’m being homophobic cause what a coincidence I’m only doing it now after he came out.

His mom is mad too and thinks I’m overreacting because boys change in locker rooms together all the time so that shouldn’t make me uncomfortable. She says too that I’m being weird only because he’s gay.

But idk I was always uncomfortable in locker rooms too. And plus he straight up walks around naked in front of me which I don’t like.

It’s tense at home with them both saying I’m being homophobic and Steven says I’m hurting his feelings not wanting to share that space anymore.

I didn’t like any of the stuff he was doing even before he came out, but now I just to where I was fed up with it. Knowing that he’s gay just made me start to wonder if it was all being done on purpose.

So idk am I being an asshole?

UPDATE

Okay I kno it hasn’t been that long but shit kinda hit the fan this wk. here’s my original post.

So thanx everyone for supporting me through this cause I felt like I was losing it with everyone at home making me feel like shit. It helped a lot that people understood what j was dealing with and didn’t make me feel bad for feeling the way I do.

Some comments were saying I needed to tell my mom about what was going on since she didn’t know even tho I felt bad about it.

A day after I posted i told her. First about the way Steven was acting with me and then how they were all giving me shit abt being homophobic since I decided to move out of my room after he came out.

She was pissed tf off. She told me to put my dad on and I could hear her yelling at him from the phone when I gave it to him. My dad wasn’t happy and they were arguing for like a half hour.

But he said he was sorry for not rlly doing much for me about Steven and my mom says she doesn’t want me there.

Cause of Steven and also doesn’t like that I’m sleeping in the basement and doesn’t know if it’s even safe for me down there since it’s an old basement.

My mom told me she wants me over there with her but only if I want to. School is online and I don’t see any of my friends anyways so it wouldn’t be a big deal if I stayed with her. I talked to my dad and then to my mom. He was mad that I wanted to go with her but he didn’t tell me anything else.

She drove all the way back here and picked me up on Thursday. Been here at the hotel she staying at since Friday. It’s more chill tbh. I’m here alone most of the time since my mom has to work all day so I like the privacy.

I’ve talked to my dad and he says they’re gonna talk to Steven. Idk how that’s gonna go when my stepmom was still all defensive about him when I left. We’ll see I guess.

Idk for how long we’ll be here. I think another 2-3 months but at least I’m not there at my dads for rn with all those uncomfortable vibes.

So ya that’s all I wanted to say. Since everyone was really helpful about what I should do and how i don’t need to be dealing with that shit.