I am NOT OP. Original post by u/zxasqw123edc on Oct 17 2015 and Oct 26 2015

Mother has possibly been unfaithful.

trigger warning: infidelity.

Original post

My Dad gave my mom and i a 2 week vacation in Italy, he could not come being busy with work, hes an electrical contractor.

We visited Rome and Venice, we were in Florence for 4 days. This is where the Italian gentleman comes in. When looking at a map he asks if we need help and shows us the way to go. He's going that way anyway. He's a tubby man with a fedora, old leather safari jacket and old school cravat. He looks ridiculious but seems pleased with himself. I have a photo and could crop out his face it that within the rules.

He shows us around and offers us lunch. He's charming in a odd way. He offers to take us in his car to look at his village the next day. Mom loveds this idea, he sells it as the real Italy. Nest day we go and he pays her alot of attention. Steering her by holding her back and opening doors and hes clearly touching her when he can. He flicks lint of her dress collar and things like that. We have a good time though and see a bit of Tuscany.

the day ends and he buys Mom flowers. This is the line he pulls. "Some like flowers with the dew still on them, I like flowers in full bloom" I almost laugh but Mom laps it up.

That night she gets a call, she's left an earring in a resturant and goes to get it. I offer to go with her but she demurs. Mom does not come back that night! I ring but she says shes OK and will be back later.

That morning shes too tired to go out. I go out and come back and she's out. Won't answer calls, only texts she out and not to worry. I suspect I know where she is.

When we go home she does not mention the Italian gent to Dad. She gushes how great is was tho' and how she wants to go back. To me she's denied anything happened other than he took her to a tango club.

TL:DR. Mom had a fling. Dad dosnt deserve this. So: My options?

say nothing? tell all? warn her?

Update

I've resubmitted this as my original had a link in it and was removed.

Spoke to Mom about my concerns and she was upset and angry. Her POV: A. I should not step between her and her husband.

B. The night she spent with Italian gent was wonderful, the best she's had in over decade. they did not do the deed but he took her dancing till 3am. The has wine and chicken wings between tangos. The gent knew she was married and didn't push it. I was gone when see got up at 11am. She went out to thank him for the attention he paid her and say goodbye. he was gracious and charming.

C: That night showed her all that was missing from her marriage and things are changing. She's not going on holiday with me again. If Dad can't get time off then its not happening. He should have been with her. work should not always take precedence. My Dads work/life balance is completely out of whack to add balance there will be a date night once a minimum of once per month with Dad, come what may he's taking her out to a proper date. Theater etc.

D: She and Dad will dress better. Look their best at all times. Jeans a T-shirts are no longer acceptable. Look good feel good. ( This has already started to happen, she a Dad have been out clothes shopping.)

E: A dark warning. If I speak out I'll open a world of hurt but that's up to me.

I should add that this until this moment I never believed my Mom capable of infidelity. She's always been a moral compass for me. I'm a little confused.

TL:DR Things are changing.