I did it!

Sooo… turns out I might need to be in love/have a deep emotional connection to experience mind blowing orgasms.

I started seeing someone one for about 3 months, we had no sexual contact during that time. We didn’t kiss until month 1. By month 4, we escalated our intimacy to foreplay and well… miracles occurred. I’ve orgasmed every single time we’ve been together. It’s definitely a combination of having a romantic connection, feeling safe and my partner being sexually compatible with me.

I had my first orgasm, last year, when I was 24 years old. At the time I was casually seeing someone and it took several months for me to experience that ‘release’. Funnily enough that was around the time we had a very deep conversation, that made me feel connected to him in a way that I hadn’t felt before. That stopped. I thought that would be the first and last time I would have an orgasm. I thought it was a fluke. Well, that is until I met the person I’m currently seeing, one year on.

Now I know the conditions I need to be in to experience that release and casual relationships don’t seem to grant that luxury. Or relationships where partners have been avoidant ( I’ve dated many in the past) .

By love, I mean mutual love imbued with respect, honesty and trust. I have never felt this safe in a relationship. We definitely have Sympathetic Resonance, which is captured by the physiological responses I experience :)