I have been trying out different birth control options and I am on my last leg. When I tried combination birth control pills, I first noticed this problem: a new inability or difficulty orgasming. This problem happens to me with partners and while masturbating. With or without a vibrator.

So, I switched to an iud, and this really helped the orgasm problem. The iud proceeded to cause health problems and I was forced to take it out. Then, I decided to try a low estrogen form of birth control pills, hoping this would help. The problem is back. I really want suggestions on what I can do that are not getting off birth control because for reasons I won’t get into, I need to be on this.

It’s weird. I get aroused. I get very wet throughout the day, with my partners, and of course during sex. I feel a normal amount of stimulation in my clit. Sometimes, my clit feels over or under sensitive, but the nerves are definitely working as they are supposed to. And I feel consistently sexual. Sexual fantasies, porn, kinky sex, hot sex partners: I have a great sex life. So this orgasm issue dumbfounds me. It’s my only problem.

I get so, so close. It feels so great to build up to it. And then, I just stay in limbo, stimulating my clit for a long time before eventually I make myself over sensitive and I have to stop. It’s like the nerves aren’t connecting. I wasn’t born like this. I know what’s causing it (sort of). But I want to fix it!