A little over a decade ago, I was reading a fantasy book series for the third time and I noticed for the first time these themes of Dominance and submission that I had failed to ever notice before. Within weeks I had discovered Reddit, Tumblr, and within months, Fetlife. I researched everything I could about the lifestyle. I wanted to learn everything I could. For the first nearly year, I talked to all varieties and learned why they were in the role they were. I learned what the lifestyle meant. A decade later and i’m still learning. To Master anything you must constantly be open to learning; to adapting; to growing.

I began in the lifestyle as a Dom and later Daddy. I later learned that the role I felt most natural in was a Master or a Dom. I may even say slight Sadist.

To me, being a Master or Dom isn’t about forcing someone to serve or about just the sexual side of things. It is about far more. It is about the raw power that exists; the raw control; the raw connection. It feels natural to me to be in control and to lead.

To me, it is all about that person that you desire to be yours. You are asking someone to be with you and for them to willingly give control over themselves to you. It’s not something easy to do for most (but not all). The sub or slave is lifting up that wall we all have built up around us to protect ourselves and letting you in. She is exposing herself to the greatest degree hoping that the one she allows in is the right person. She wants someone who makes her happy and who won’t leave at the first sign of trouble. Someone to be there for her and to guide her. To hold her hand in the darkness and to be her light. Someone to hold her accountable. A sense of stability in an otherwise crazy world. Someone to serve and obey. Someone who will punish her when she is disobedient and put her back in her place when necessary. Someone to be her rock and foundation.

What am I seeking? To be honest, someone who was drawn to what I wrote and wants to know more; to hear more.

Who am I? I am a 32 year old Dom and Master with a life i’m happy with minus my other half. This year, I bought a fixer upper house and I just finished remodeling it on my own. I have a full time job. I own an online business. I have a garden with 50 different fruits, veggies and herbs. I read on a regular basis and own hundreds of books.

What do I look like? I’m 5’10 with Brown Hair and Blue Eyes that look like the sky on a perfect day.

What am I seeking? A dynamic. I’m open to In Person or Online/Long Distance to start. I’m located in the Midwest.

Kink wise? There isn’t much I don’t enjoy. Top kinks: Choking/Breath Play, Control, Spanking/Impact Play, Mental/Psychological Control, Marks of Ownership, Giving Pain (slight Sadist), Orgasm Control, Power Exchange