I am a 40-year-old professional man who is into the world of consensual "non-consent," and is looking for a woman with a complementary interest. To be clear at the outset, I am a perfectly sane, respectable person who wants to do this the right way -- safely and openly and with clear lines of communication. Like you, I live in the real world, and I do not at all expect that any woman will immediately place herself in a potentially violent or excessively aggressive scenario. I aim to start off in a measured way, and have the following in mind.

My scenario involves me interviewing you for a job. I'm in a suit, you're dressed for success. We go over your CV, we discuss your qualifications and interests. And then it goes off a slow and slippery slope of impropriety. It's not physically aggressive, but based on the power dynamic. You need the job, so you put up with the intrusive questions. And then come the inappropriate requests. And then the touching. And then . . . well, I won't give it all away! Suffice it to say I will enjoy you, and you will feel like you can't say no. (I accept that this is very taboo in the #metoo era, but that is part of the allure, to be honest. But please be assured that I would never do this in real life to an unsuspecting and unwilling woman. I do understand the difference between exploring fantasies in a safe and consensual way and actual assault.)

That said, I want it to be more about embarrassment, humiliation, and psychology than brute force. It can become a bit aggressive if we (emphasis on we) want it to. But we can talk about that privately.

How does it work? Well, I believe that being with a relative stranger actually enhances the scenario as it helps supply some of the anxiety and nervousness and loss of control that underpins it. I don't want to eliminate that, but for safety's sake we'll definitely need to exchange some messages and define any obvious hard limits. Maybe say a bit about what attracts us each to his and her particular perspective here. Then, if we think we're a good fit, we'd meet in public for a drink or a cup of coffee. That is an absolute must, as much for me as for you. If and only if we establish a basic level of trust and comfort, we'd go someplace private to explore the dynamic (and that doesn't necessarily happen the same night we meet). Your limits are absolutely respected and you can define your own safe words.

If this works out like I hope it will, there is always the possibility that with growing trust we could explore more extreme situations, including more physically coercive ones. But let's not rush into that?

Okay, who am I? I am tall, dark, and handsome. Ha, well, at least I am tall, and I do have dark hair and eyes. You can be the judge of handsome (although certainly some women have thought so!). Also, I'm reasonably fit and slim. I'm educated, clean-cut, and very, very sex- and kink-positive. No judgments! We're here to indulge, not conform!

Still interested? Let me know with a direct message . . .