It’s a bit of an odd request I know. Yes, believe me I know it sounds like a cheesy porn plot but hear me out.

I’ve had the wonderful fortune of finding a partner who is both open enough to explore the boundaries of a non-monogamous relationship and is honestly as taken with beautiful women as I am. But despite the fact that she is objectively attractive and honestly god damned adorkable, she always trips over herself when it comes to finding women to explore that side of herself with.

It’s not that the interest isn’t there-it very much is. But rather, she has a habit of second guessing herself even when a woman is likely blatantly flirting with her. She always writes it off as the possibility of someone just being nice, and she’s admittedly a bit intimidated by beautiful women and therefore not likely to make the first move herself.

Add that to her need for good chemistry in order to be attracted to someone and, well, I can admittedly see why she struggles. That’s where you (hopefully) come in.

What I’m hoping to find is someone that has the patience to develop that chemistry but will make their interest quite clear in a way she can’t misinterpret. I’ll admit, you might need to be a little blunt when you get to the point where you want things to move forward.

How you go about it is entirely up to you. I could find a pretense to put the two of you in touch. I could tell you when and where she/we might be and you could approach her naturally and see if we hit it off. I could even be rather overt with my intentions and tell her we’re going out to meet someone, or that I have someone that I’ve told about her and would love to meet her and see if there’s any chemistry. She’s not at all opposed to the idea and we’ve even discussed the thought of me having someone seduce her like this. She’s just the person that most gets in her own way.

If you’ve gotten this far and you’re still interested, let me share a bit about her.

She’s a creative type, and is instantly drawn to anything involving the arts, music, poetry (actually she likes to frequent open mics sometimes and is always looking for like minded people in those communities). She’s a big old nerd, an avid gamer (Stardew Valley and Breath of the Wild being some of her faves), and loves the outdoors-doubly so if it involves the water or stargazing.

She’s on the smaller side, very petite with beautiful dark skin and shoulder length locs. She’s kink friendly and very submissive but isn’t at all opposed to initiating and is a very enthusiastic partner. Rope play is a particular favorite of hers and she wants to learn shibari one day with the ultimate goal of being suspended.

As for me, well, my involvement is purely optional. If you want me to be a part of things and the chemistry is there I’m more than happy to be, but if you’re only interested in her then no hard feelings. This ultimately isn’t about me, it’s about her. I just want her to find somebody solid that she can explore with and ideally form a friendship with.

Her type varies pretty widely but I’ll say she has a strong gravitation towards empathetic women and creative types, and people that take care of themselves. Ideally you would be reasonably fit, care about your appearance and don’t mind taking a bit of initiative. If you lean more dominant or are a switch that certainly wouldn’t hurt either but as long as the mutual attraction and chemistry is there I don’t think you should have issues either way.

And before it gets asked-she is absolutely not looking for men or male/female couples at this time (she doesn’t mind at all if you’re attached as long as your partner is aware). This is her preference not mine. And please don’t send us messages anyways trying to convince us or “for future consideration”. It’s just a waste of both our time. I promise you, if she’s looking for it she will go seeking it out.

That said, if you’re a woman anywhere in the DMV area and wouldn’t mind helping her explore, please, don’t hesitate to reach out.