Hey there reddit. And welcome to those of you who got past the username.

I'm in an open marriage. Just like it says on the cover, I'm hoping to meet an active, confident, smart, and submissive-leaning woman. My short-to-medium-term goal is to meet a kinky friends-with-benefits.

About you:

Ideally you are a good communicator and are looking for a consistent kink exploration partner. Please reach out if:

1. You are attracted to individuals, not stereotypes.

2. You recognize and challenge any unconscious biases in who/what attracts you.

3. You understand that clear communication and reciprocal pleasure are the foundations of a healthy kinky relationship.

4. You value others' cultures and identities, striving to understand their mindset and worldview.

5. You actively seek to learn, accept and love what sets human beings apart instead of maintaining a tolerant distance.

About me:

I was a neurotypically smart grade-skipper as a lad (good grades, three languages, etc). I had a peripatetic childhood, but I also have a nearly flawless American accent.

Today I'm a regular child-free DC professional. I butle/chief of staff for two cats. No one clocks me as kinky. I work out to enjoy (Hawaiian) pizza. I love smart puns and dumb jokes. For any height supremacists out there, I'm 5'7" (~172 cm), but I'm always growing as a person 😉

Media-wise, if you like Eddie Izzard, Avatar the Last Airbender, or Andor, we'll likely hit it off. Or alternatively, tell me what you've been reading of late? I love to read.

Often, I've been told that I am a little intimidating. I think any Black person with a vocabulary gets told that though. Hopefully my username signals that I don't take myself too seriously 😉

Non-Negotiables:

• 420 is cool, but no tobacco users.
• Physical availability required (you live within 30-45 minutes of the beltway).
  
• Emotional availablity required (e.g. you're not amidst an acrimonious breakup/divorce/funeral/campaign for office).
• I'm a straight dude, but conservative, heteronormative, or tradwife values don't work well for me.
• If you are deathly allergic to cats, you will not enjoy being around me, lol.
• You brush and floss before making out every day.

Why Choose Me?

1. If your eyes light up over something you're into, I'm all ears.

2. You come first and I will invest in your pleasure. References available.

3. My core connection values are honest communication and curiosity about your desires.

4. I'm vasectomied. In the era of vanishing reproductive choice it is the least I could do 😬 Especially in The South 🫤 Remember to vote ✊🏿!

5. I am up-to-date on my shots and can provide recent STI tests. I practice safe sex.

6. Psychonautics and therapy really worked well for me. I'm happy to talk about this if we vibe.

7. Animals, especially dogs, seem fond of me. I'm told it's my chill vibe.

Interest piqued? Let's talk! If we get along, let's meet for a beverage. Happy to vibe check over video as well.

Icebreakers:

It can be intimidating reaching out to a stranger.

1. Is there an aspect of your identity you enjoy explaining to others?

2. It took three days for Jesus to rise from the dead. How many people can Jesus raise in five days?

3. What's a topic you're passionate about that most people find unusual?

Cheers, y'all.