50 [f4m] #20009 advice for horny cis men

Men looking for women on r4r, yes, we are here. After a disappointing week looking for a fwb, which one would think would be a slam-dunk, I’d like to share some lessons learned.

1/Read the criteria and be responsive to it in your reply. I’ve had 21 year olds, out-of-DMVers, married men, and Trumpers respond, and they must think they are all exceptions to the rule. We have to respect each others’ preferences on here, no matter if we agree with those choices.

2/No nsfw pics! Why send a dick pic if my post explicitly says do not send dick pics? It’s a jump-scare that creeps me out. Again, respect poster’s preferences.

3/You can do better than ghost. Ghosting is ubiquitous. Practice some radical honesty. R4r is low-stakes. If you can’t try out being honest about why you are no longer interested here, think about how much harder it is while dating.

4/Most (non-OF) women don’t want to share photos immediately. With reverse image search so easy, it’s just not safe. Plus, r4r favors the witty retorts. If you want to score based on photos, try OLD. And it doesn’t mean I’m fat or ugly (I’m neither), it’s just that I want to check our compatibility through chatting a bit before divulging my identity.

5/ (a variation on 3/) If you are going to chicken out, don’t waste my time. I’ve had the longest, best chats, and then later get a ‘naw dog, not feeling it’. Meanwhile I dropped other potentials because you were so initially eager. R4r is a gamble for everyone, but don’t show up if you are not ready to take a risk and play.

So, tldr: there are real women on here. Not bots, or scam artists, or pros. Real women who want a healthy sex life without commitment. But given the poor etiquette on here, I’m one week longer without a mind-blowing orgasm, other than the self-administered ones.

Happy hunting one and all!