Ostensibly this is a hookup site, but where else to find such a specific connection without outing oneself as kinky to your coworkers on tinder? A hard question. But I’ve found cool people through Reddit before, and I can be patient. If you’re like me- if you’re a little kinky and a little weird, but want something good- read on.

It’s been a while since I really had a proper dynamic. I miss kink. I miss the tenderness of power exchange. I miss exploring new experiences and sharing vulnerable moments. I miss what comes along with that when you take the time to develop something special with someone.

I miss being able to unwind after a long day by substituting the power structures of the real world- those we cannot control- with one we can.

I miss just being a nerd with somebody about bondage gear and playing around and goofing off while we hang out.

What I’m looking for: ultimately, a relationship with a clear purpose. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean strict 24/7 kink. It doesn’t mean taking the roleplay super seriously. What I mean is I’m looking for a relationship that is confidently kinky. If you’re fairly new to kink, that’s fine. That’s fun. What matters is finding someone steadfast in their kinky identity, who embraces it, cherishes it, and has a positive personal relationship with it.

To prescribe an exact or desired dynamic here isn’t really my style. It is too dependent on the individual and our chemistry to just list a bunch of kinks here. The dynamic we develop is ultimately a reflection of our wider personalities and relationship, which brings me to the most important point: BDSM practice is almost incidental to the actual relationship. What that relationship is I’m not necessarily picky about now. Romantic partner? Cuddle buddy? Lifestyle submissive? These are all valid to me, as long as we click independently of whatever happens in the bedroom. This is a long way of saying I’m pretty flexible on the kink itself, which cannot sustain something long term on its own and is secondary to companionship.

Of course, sexual compatibility matters too so I’m not going to just leave you in the dark about that. I identify primarily as a dominant. A kinkster over all else, and happy to experiment, but I enjoy the feeling of guiding and owning someone. I am happy in that role indefinitely. Power exchange, rules, and discipline make my brain tingle. Bondage (especially metal), chastity, denial, overstimulation, forced orgasms, pet play, collaring, etc.

If that sounds more or less up your alley, perfect.

I’m looking for someone near my age or a little younger. Will trade pics if good vibe.

Feel free to message if you see this late. I’ll try to remember to take it down if I’m not looking anymore