i'm an experienced and confident dominant, psychological sadist, and erotic hypnotist. i enjoy manipulating words to manipulate people (with consent, of course). warmth and encouragement can be hard to find in the depths of our depravity, so i value those connections that can withstand the cold and the pressure. i appreciate the intangibles of human connection much more than the stats and metrics so feel free to reach out even if it doesn't make sense of paper.

i live alone with my two cats who i adore, and work remotely in software development. i take both of those energies into my kink - the creative puzzle-solving of an engineer with the empathy and power dynamic of a pet owner (i've never lived with a cat that i couldn't train into my lap). i'm very tall, burly, bearded, blue eyed, and bespectacled. DDF but open-minded to substances and 420 friendly.

i consider goofiness and gravity to be important facets to my personality and that extends to kink and dynamics. i believe in snark and sarcasm and levity and in contrasting what's important with what's just for fun. i don't believe in taking myself extremely seriously or being 'on' all the time and i crave connection that can cut deep whether the curtain's up or down. kink is not a hobby for me but an important part of my sexual satisfaction & romantic chemistry at once.

i have explored and enjoyed many kinks and the most important ones for us to match on are CNC, conditioning/corruption, misogyny, anal, and degradation. the rest is more or less negotiable and i am open to explore avenues that i haven't, outside of my few limits. i have a soft affectation but i am not a 'soft dom'. i am more than willing to drop you deep into depravity. please indicate your consent to CNC when you message (red/yellow safewords ok? i'm happy to chat without it, just make that clear).

please reach out if you are:

• an attractive woman with some amount of self-confidence & sexual submissive instinct
• capable of being a serious, emotionally mature adult. just not all the time.
• experienced in kink or an eager student
• strong in personality and a habitual mind-speaker
• curious and prone to captivation
• interested in altered states of mind
• partial to pets and to poetry
• i'm posting on a local sub, so nothing online-only please!
• nonmonogamous
• progressive (at least until the collar comes on)

cuckquean enjoyers to the front of the line. lately i am also particularly interested in playing with dominant or switchy women who'd like to explore (and over time perhaps lose control to) their submissive side. hard limits are diapers/scat/lasting harm.

this is a high effort post so thorough introductions will be prioritized and lazy responses or requests to DM will be ignored. i am not interested in casual pick up play or, god forbid, roleplay. as a hypnotist i do most of my best work over text, supplemented with voice messages & visual stimulus although i'm very open to live voice and video with the right rapport. i wrestle with ADHD and depression so please be patient and communicate the important stuff clearly and i'll do the same. i'm looking forward to picking your brain.