Hi all I know this is an extremely long shot but I’ll try anyways. I am bi, ddf, slim love to go on runs, hike, snowboarding, ultimate frisbee. I am seeking someone who is kinky but willing to have a long term friendship/relationship with. I’ve found through the years of being a dom that if there isn’t a connection then the sexual relationship begins to fade quickly so I want some who can also slot into my general life. I can be a bit of a nerd since I am a software developer by career so it comes with the territory.

Sexually I am a dom so having that “control” gets me going to no end. The more “control” you are willing to give up the more I am attracted. Some examples include but not limited to chastity, maintaining your body hair like I like, or wearing things only cause I say etc. Again the more “control” you give up the better. I definitely can get into other and honestly heavier kinks but I respect limits. That said I will push yours and use what turns you on to my advantage. Expect to be teased and rock hard everyday all day. That said what we do is our business. To everyone else we are good friends, best friends or even bf if we have that connection and we agree.

About you: If you want this to work then then you should not approach this as a jerk fantasy or even a one off session. When we are at home or in private you are basically my “bitch” and you have to enjoy that. You will need to enjoy serving me in every way I want. You don’t need to be an expert or even an extreme kinky bitch just someone who is willing to learn and grow. Hell you could have never had a dom or even been with a guy for all I care. If you are naturally submissive then perfect. You should be in shape as well. Slim/athletic/runner/swimmer/gym rat is all a go. If you eat right and do moderate exercise according to most Drs you are probably good to go. Surfing Netflix, crunchyroll, etc is not exercise. You need to take care of yourself since if you can’t do that then how are you going to take care of me. Do not worry if you have a ton of limits either. As long as you are happy with being controlled and chastity (ie having your dick controlled) then you fit the minimum requirements. Also do not be old. Ultimately I want some type of relationship weather that is extremely close friendships or a deeper one. We will do things out side of kink. Luckily, I don’t have daddy issues.

Limits: findom or any type of financial control. That is a red line I don’t pay and do not expect you to pay me. Anything illegal. This should be in everyone’s but if it’s against the law it’s a red line. Scat, vomit etc. Not to kink shame but…no. Cross dressing, I am bi meaning I am attracted to women and men. If I wanted a women I would just get a woman. No disrespect to the trans. I am only taking to the people who crossdress for sex only. Unsafe. My job as a job is to use and control you but also keep you safe. That includes anything that could injure you physically or emotionally. Having my ass played with. I am a top so I am not going to be fucked for any reason. Public, Only people who consent should be involved in our fun. That doesn’t mean secret public is a no. So things like wearing your chastity in public is fine or making you go to the store with my cum on your ass. There are others that as acceptable as well. Just I am not fucking you in the park or bathroom at some random store. Unrealistic kinks. I am not locking you in a cage 24/7 for the rest of your life. “American healthcare system” is all you need to know as to why that kink is not happening. Flakes. If you message me be serious. Expect to move fast to build trust so we can meet up. Racist, I am biracial (black/white) and if you don’t like that then it’s a you problem. Raceplay can be fun and hot but racism is not. Learn the difference. Your limits are included. If it’s a limit to you then it’s a limit for me. I will accept that. Your body your choice and don’t let anyone not even me force you to violate your limits. Online, sorry I am looking for irl only. Cheaters, if you are already in a relationship then you can’t serve me like I want as well as questions your loyalty/long term viability of the relationship. Furthermore, this violate the consent rule. Everyone who is impacted by our play must consent. Grammar trolls. Yes I misspelled something or used improper grammar. I am horny so stuff happens and my long dick interfere with the keyboard.

Finally discussion is important. All kink relationships are based on that simple rule. If you cannot discuss things like how you are feeling or when something is wrong or good then the relationship will fail.

If you read through that thank you and I hope to hear from you soon. Please show some effort in the dm. At a minimum present your stats and expectations.