Hi. I'm an older African American nerdy woman who wishes she had someone to hold hands while doing things like: - checking out the sci Fi and fantasy sections of a bookstore. -deciding which new miniatures to buy at a local gaming store -walking around national harbor during Magfest (are you here right now?) -watching fight school at Rennfest (assuming we arrived early enough to not still be in line at the archery area) -or searching for a pinball machine to play (haven't visited the pinball lounge at the local MOM's grocery store since COVID; perhaps I should just break down and buy my own machine?)

I'm retired and finally have the time to pursue all my nerdy interests. I'm having a blast. It would be more fun I think if I had someone to share my adventures with though.

I'm demisexual which means I need to time to build a friendship before I feel any romantic or sexual attraction. So I'm looking for a friend with relationship potential, not an immediate hookup.

Meeting men my age who are ok with my level of nerdiness has been a challenge. (Why yes I do cosplay? And no I don't care if you think it's silly for a grown woman to dress as wonder woman, in scale maille she wove herself.) I have found more understanding of my nerdiness among younger men. And I get along well with shy or introverted guys or guys who feel they are socially awkward etc. (If you are a guy who needs to be in charge all the time, I'm so not the one you are looking for.)

I do have an invisible disability which has left me with a challenged immune system. So I'm not much into big crowds anymore since COVID (which is why I'm walking around outside of magfest instead of being a staff volunteer like I used to).

And I prefer to date interracially. FYI, this preference is more about acceptance than race. I dated black men exclusively before I married. And I was married to a black man for 25 years. After being divorced several years and reflecting on past relationships, I realized, they often weren't comfortable with my nerdiness.

And why only men 40 you ask? I have a son in his late 20s. I do not wish to connect with someone so young they could be his peer.

I'm looking for someone local to my area. We can't hold hands if you are miles away (And I already have long distance penpals). If you see yourself reflected in what I've written, please send me a DM. Thanks.