Ok so I’ve been dabbling in this for a while with a girl that I’ve known a long time and recently found out she was a fin/femdomme. Also recently convinced my wife to try it a little although she is MUCH MUCH more hesitant. So I have a few questions I want input on from both sides.

1st: do you prefer impact or crushing? And why?

2nd: what is easier to start with for a nervous partner?

3rd: how do I get my wife to not be as afraid/nervous? She is a very vanilla person but has recently been atleast interested in a little more kinky stuff after we watched some porn on a stay in date night we took turns picking videos.

Sorry some of this is rambling just would love to quit sneaking around and paying for it if I could be satisfied by my wife.