i think this is allowed here. ?

i live in a city of 1M. some of my experiences. ..

apps. the main issue with apps is many are not geared toward kink. and the ones that are have a small user base. i've tried tinder, pure, field. pure was the most kink focused. but didn't turn up anything. tinder has a large user base but feels uncomfortable putting ballbusting in my profile. i usually just say "kink".

sites. tried fetlife. disappointing. not only does it seem to be loosing it's users but it's starting to cater just to pros.

so tinder by far has led to more dates than any other site/app.

there are forums and reddit. but again, small user base. and don't know how to make it local.

i don't mind paying for the apps/sites. but if i never meet anyone i cancel.

looking for fresh ideas. ideally would want to meet a long term girlfriend type.

i've thought of just bringing up i'm into some kink early on. maybe the first date or even before the first date. see if they ask more questions. like " how do you feel about kink? because i have some"

anyway, back to my point. any other suggestions on how to meet a nice nut kicking girl. ha.

part of the issue might be my pickiness. i'm a good looking, in shape guy. and of course my fantasy is to have a hot woman crack 'em.