I've been getting into the whole ERP for a bit less than a year now. And I swear--it's getting harder by the day. And I wanted to see if I'm alone in this? Just today, I had a person reach out for an RP prompt of mine. And we talked characters for a bit. I made a suggestion, asking, "Hey, we're basing your character on a rabbit. You think she could have large, powerful legs?"

And this person goes, "Maybe you should have put that in the ad. I'm sorry, but I'm not in the mood anymore."

All I did was ask. And that was it? Gone. And then a couple of days before that, I'm getting a couple of responses on another prompt. Great! But all of them want the RP changed to focus on noncon when I say specifically that if I am to feature that, I want it to lead to consent.

After that I got a person saying, "Hey, wyd?" on a post specifically for finding someone that's detailed and literate. And all their responses are, "RP? Ye. Wyd? Cool." And when asked if they've any thoughts around the prompt, they go, "Nope. All you. RP?"

And a week before that, I'm talking to another person about a potential RP. We agree to move to discord, and they are kind enough to set up a server. And that's it. Never heard from them again.

Look--I've done plenty wrong. I've been cringe, I've been rude. I've let bad days get the best of me. I'm not perfect, and I'm not saying this to throw anyone under the bus. I get it, we've all our own expectations and kinks and all that. And that's fine, but I'm just so confused lately. It feels so hard to find a partner. And harder still to keep one. And I was wondering if this occurs for anyone else or if I'm just so... repulsive or something lol