38M lead here. Been dancing for the past three years, and been going to socials couple of times a month during this time. I began pretty shy and sloppy, but (people tells me) grown kind of good now.

People attending socials change, specially where I go. But patterns remain. Most of the follows I dance with, we have a perfectly good time. Is fun and nice. There has to be always one or two which don't make pleasing dancing with them, is a really rare case however.

BUT, in (almost) every social, there has to be THAT follow which is completely the opposite. We're total strangers but the chemistry burst from the beginning. We look at each other the whole song, incapable of being fed-up on that. We don't follow the song, the song follows us. I risk bolder moves. At some point she starts moving on her own, rubbing me with her body, what drives me crazy, and she realizes, and we both double on that. And I go for riskier moves. And with her eyes closed she can't stop moving. Not even realizing it.

And the song finishes, spell vanished. And we clap our hands. And go for a different partner.

Inevitably, I ask her later for another dance. Is the only reasonable response. But then always reject me politely, or worse, has already left with her she-friends.

And I'm tired of this. Why to quit? Dance with me a couple of times more and perhaps by the end of the night I'll be asking you your number. Then we can start talking, and at some point we perhaps go for a coffee. Don't worry, no I don't have marriage plans or anything. Is just that, why don't turn this moment in a starting point for something?

I'm sure they tell themselves "that was fun, but means nothing" And leave. But, for sure, would love seeing me chasing them for some time (women love being chased, don't deny this girls ;) ), asking them politely to make me a bit of room in her life. But be realistic, Barcelona is a very big city and we don't know each other. There's no way I can do that, you left before giving me a chance. So the night effectively ends up meaning nothing. And we won't see each other again. Or will meet back months later, what is basically the same.

There's not a clear point in this post. I was writing just out of frustration after last night meeting yet another femme fatale. So, what do you think? Has someone else gone through similar experiences and is willing to tell us a bit about that? Just share some thoughts, perhaps? Do you think that socials could be a good starting point for a more deep relation? Thanks for reading pals and gals.

Edit: read most of the replies and I see where this is heading.

Thanks for lecturing me in life, kind strangers. You pictured me right. But I hope you will forgive me for not following your advice. I'll go back to my psycho-stuff. You know, sharpening knifes, tying ropes, I have the basement ready. Tonight I have a gathering with the other maniacs in town where we'll be discussing our businesses. Dresscode: psycho-killer clown mask, of course.

Now seriously, I'm not surprised everyone chose to understand me for the worse. Apparently I'm a disrespectful jerk, and I'm not into dancing because I like it. Yeah, sure. I'm not surprised, but still disappointed anyway.

Anyway, rant over.

Edit 2: this post has become quite (un)popular and I understand it. I needed to let some frustration go, but did it in a wrong way. I acknowledge my error. Anyway, I'm closing the door here. I won't reply anymore. I won't even change the previous text, I don't care. If anyone else thinks the text entitles to insult and disrespect me, fine. Perhaps I'm not the most unpolite here.