Hello! I’m a former lurker and now first-time poster looking for help/advice.

I’m [25f] currently 16 5 weeks pregnant, total accident on my and DH’s [25m] part, but nevertheless, we’re totally happy!

My DH is the only child of MIL while her sister (AIL) has three girls. The GILs (grandparent in-law) have also preferred and treated AIL and CILs (cousin-in-law) better. If they got into trouble or situations, GILs are always there to help, because they could do no wrong. They always come first.

MIL and DH, however, are not exactly treated the same. MIL was a troublemaker and had DH with a deadbeat, so if AIL or CILs aren’t in trouble at the moment, then they may get help from GILs. This has always been the case, even though MIL and DH always step up to help everyone else.

So with this being our first pregnancy, I was excited for my DH to finally have a proud moment to himself. Well, today the middle CIL announced she is 12 weeks pregnant with her first with her BF of less than two years.

Of course, the jealousy could partly be because this is my first pregnancy too and I know I might get asked to share showers with her, now worry about picking same names, etc. Essentially being jealous of thunder being stolen.

Tbh, I’m mostly jealous for my DH. Being played last fiddle to his CILs, despite following all of the “right life scripts” (being the only grandchild to now have a child within wedlock instead of just by someone, like MIL, AIL, older CIL and now middle CIL), he can already tell that this pregnancy won’t matter as much to the family as much as CIL’s. Like he has already stated that he wouldn’t be surprised if MIL is the only person keeping up with our pregnancy now. That when we deliver to not expect them to care since CIL will be close behind me in terms of due date.

Along with how to deal with my personal jealousy, how do I support my DH? He’s trying not to show that he’s shellshocked by the news and its implications, but I know that it’s eating him alive.