So this post is both for advice to me personally as his sister and to my family as a whole

My brother is 11 so he can’t get diagnosed or at least it’s very difficult to get diagnosed but he is suspected for bpd or similar disorders , he does have autism and adhd

My whole family is pretty neurodivergent, I have autism and mood disorders, my mom is ADD, I suspect my dad for autism and my other brother has unspecified learning disabilities, so you can imagine it hasn’t been the easiest, for anyone, and right now my younger brother (the 11 y/o) is at an out of state residential, due to aggression and suicidal behavior, we just couldn’t keep him safe at home, he is medicated but it doesn’t help all that much, he struggles a lot with empathy I think, a good example is that he believes if our cat bites/scratches him he should be allowed to hit the cat back, he applies this “eye for an eye” logic to everything, and when all fails he resorts to trying to off himself He will also try to off himself if he feels uncomfortable (like… bored)

He often relies on video games and books. Part of our struggle with having him at home is that he will want to be on his computer 24/7 and that isn’t healthy, plus sometimes people on the computer trigger him too, so it’s just a time bomb waiting to go off to let him do that

He’s been doing a bit better but every day is still a struggle, but we are thinking about bringing him home soon ish, maybe, it’s up in the air, and I’m looking for advice on what would be helpful for him when he is at home , my understanding of his mind only goes so far unfortunately

I do also suspect that he’s on the trans spectrum, but idk if he knows that yet … (just got extra context)