As the title says, my ex texted me and told me that 3 years after our breakup, she finally took my advice and went to therapy. There, she learned about her condition more and finally apologized for her abusive behavior.

One part of me is happy that she is healing and getting better. But the other part of me is deeply hurt that she took my advice and got better - while she is dating someone else. This is not the first time she took my advice after the breakup and got better - but this was a big part of it. And while she's happy with someone else, I'm still working through my trauma alone.

I have read on this reddit about the Hoover technique. I recognize that she has done that with me before. She told me this time that she didn't want to confuse me about wanting to get back with me, and that she is simply conflicted about what she has learned. She said that she is deeply sorry and only wants peace for me. But she still cares about me and has regrets.

I told her that it's best that we don't text while she's with someone else because we did that after the breakup and it really tore me apart. I'm trying to stay strong right now, but I am deeply hurt and feeling very lonely, regretful, and depressed.