Hello, friends. I'm still doing a lot of reading into BPD in an attempt to explain a long and tumultuous relationship with an upwBPD that ended recently, and trying to identify the role that latent codependence in myself may have made me susceptible to the allure of that relationship. I've certainly identified the "caretaker" impulse in myself which I have no doubt fit perfectly with her BPD needs, allowing us to become codependently entangled from the start.

However, I'm wondering if a relationship with a pwBPD can exacerbate or even cause codependency in the person involved with a pwBPD, by dint of presenting an endless string of ultimately unmeetable emotional demands. Could this cause codependency in a partner who didn't already have it, or would everyone else simply exit the relationship before it got that far? Do you have any thoughts about this?