Hello all,

I'm looking for a little advice or guidance. I am still on my own journey to heal from a BPD relationship, a journey which has had its ups and downs. My good friend is currently 10 months into a BPD relationship. I did my best to let him know what he may be in for, but he thought he could handle it like many of us did.

My friend has been having a really rough go of it the past two months after his gfwPBD decided to move states without talking to him first. After a couple of break ups, they're trying to make it work, but I've never seen my friend so stressed before. He's trying to do long-distance with her, I've just never known him to do some of the things he's done for anyone.

I'm trying to be as supportive as I can because I know that's what I needed when I was in the cycle. I'm finding it really difficult being on the outside of this though, I am so frustrated when he doesn't take my advice. It hurts me to see him hurting himself. It's also a little triggering to see someone else going through the same thing that I'm trying to heal from.

TLDR; how do I break my caregiving tendencies to focus on myself while my good friend deals with his BPD relationship?