My wife and I of 10 years. She has BPD. I always dealt with ups and downs constsnt crying non stop for no reason. Catering to everything. She still was a great person for many years. Takes her medicine regularly still. But it doesn't seem to work very well. When she has something in her mind it's not going away. But now the last 4 years. Nothing but hell found out cheating. I'm currently to blame I feel for everything. Now we're on a break so she said she can get stable again. Nothing I done is looked in a positive way. I look back sometimes and think. Why I did so much burned myself out to see her happy. I had some good times. But it turned into this. So I'm not sure what to expect . It's very unpredictable. Reading through some of these posts I'm noticing it must be very normal. But do any of your wifes and or girlfriends medicate? Do you see a difference. She said she wants to come back. It's very confusing. But I feel like there's never empathy. Only one way. When I read about BPD. It's so mixed. But when I read here alot more aligns with what I see. Does anybody know anything that can help. Any medicines. It's seems the medicines help. But soon as there's a trigger it's over down the rabbit hole. Could be days weeks months. For me it's usually months at a time. Coping anymore is exhausting.