You know. I consider myself to be a fairly understanding and patient, mostly normal person, who can tend to be a little codependent when in a relationship with someone who needs some extra attention. I can admit that. But i really get irritated with that OTHER page when reading their posts always revolve around how the don't like the stigma. Omg it hurts reading about the stigma. This stigma is quite literally constructed by those who were negatively affected by the behaviors of someone they loved suffering with BPD. Correct?

There was a point in my life where I started the hear this common opinion of me from people when I'd ask. They'd call me and asshole. It hurt to hear and I really didn't like it. So I took the time assess my perspective on how I affected people. Come to find out. I am considered an asshole around the circles of people whom I believe to be more neurotic and less emotionally stable or mature. My closest friends that have never betrayed me. All tend to see me as normal. The point of this post is. If you are hearing things about you that you generally do not like, then the mature thing to do is to ask. Ask everyone. From all around you. Then go home and take a look at yourself in the mirror. Weigh the aspects of yourself you believe to be true vs false. Then look outside of you towards the friend groups that said it. The people that thought i was an asshole were untrustworthy and unstable.

The stigma is quite literally a reflection of your behavior towards others. If you wake up one morning to realize you have no friends and no one wants to be around you then the common denominator is quite literally YOU. Either A you are in circles of people who are unequally yoked. Or B youre not that good of a person to be around and you have some inner work to do. Most importantly. THAT IS OKAY!! Having work to do is okay. Being wrong is okay. It is NOT okay. To self victimize and then turn around and externalize it onto others.

Let's all make an effort to GROW UP today.