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Iām going on 4 years with my BPD partner (I donāt know all the acronyms), but I have been exhausted of having to provide constant nonstop reassurance for 3 years now. I have been trying to explain to my partner for ages now how absolutely tiring it is having to constantly be essentially her emotional support animal, even when I have my own shit going on.
Itās several times a day, every day. Doesnāt matter what mood sheās in, I still have to provide it. Just ripped into me a moment ago? I still need to provide her with emotional support or Iāll just make everything worse by emphasizing a boundary. Itās like I canāt have anything going on in my own life. I just always be available for her emotions (her son is very similar, but thatās a whole other thing). Sheās always like āIt takes no time or energy to just make me feel betterā and when Iāve tried explaining how tiring being an on-call emotional coach, she just canāt seem to comprehend that itās incredibly draining.
Iām tired boss. Iām so tired. It just feels like Iāve lost all control over my life and Iām only valuable if I provide the constant validation and shit and I just feel so trapped. I get virtually no emotional support for myself and itās like Iām just not supposed to ever talk about how her emotional instability affects me or need space to deal with my own issues.
Iām just always in this fucking storm.
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