My therapist and some of my closest friends have been strongly urging me to cut contact with my ex pwBPD. At the end of our relationship, we planned to break up slowly. She was giving me until June to get my shit together and move out. In a previous post, I explained the scenario there, but tl;dr: she wanted to date a couple, so I set boundaries around my affection and she kicked me out immediately (as well as my two children, to which she was a second mother).

I just moved into a new apartment. I'm trying to move on. She texted me the other day asking if she could share a screenshot of somebody we knew that she saw on a dating app. I responded that it was inappropriate, no, that I'm doing my best not to spiral about her dating life. We were sharing a bed and having sex a month ago...

She acted like I was being overly sensitive and told me she wouldn't message me anymore. Total overreaction where she did not miss the opportunity to make me feel like an asshole.

This is typical. I set boundaries, she freaks the hell out. When we were trying to work things out, our therapist asked us to make a list of boundaries. I struggled. I got really upset because it was then I realized I couldn't set boundaries with her. The boundaries I ended up setting in that session were all violated by the end, which only took another month or so.

She texted me this morning to apologize. I told her that I understood that this is all very upsetting and we don't know how to treat each other, but for that reason I have to not talk to her. She, surprisingly didn't react, just said she understood and kept it pushing.

I'm fucking wrecked. I do not want to cut her off. I literally had a dream last night that she and I were back together and I was trying to figure out whether I should keep it a secret or not.

It feels awful, but I'm proud.