I'll be leaving this sub behind soon as I've been recovering fairly well now. About 100 Days after leaving completely. I just wanted to share a story with you all.

So if you've read some of my previous posts I had been lied to and cheated on the entire relationship as I nor her family were aware of her closeted behavior. I met her through her sister whom I was a friend of. I ran into said sister this weekend after not seeing the family nor my ex for quite some time and of course the sister brought it up. In closing she said "It's your own fault because I told you to run." "My poor poor sister (She never told me to run). Yes, poor your sister for cheating on me and lying to firstly her bestfriend and then boyfriend. It hurt to hear coming from her but I now see the full dynamic of the messed up family circle. All women. No men involved aside from the sister's fiancé.

She told me her grandma had been worried about me because she hasn't seen me around nor heard from me as I began to detach from the family as well.

You know it is what it is. I'm not perfect. Nor am I without fault in being in the relationship. I took responsibility for my short comings. She did not and per the disorder may not ever. But I am not responsible for her actions or her behavior and I will never take responsibility for it.

The family circle contributes to the dynamic as well. Guys just stay away because you can't win. The relationship failed because "Maybe they just didn't like you like that" "Their needs weren't being met" "you were selfish and inconsiderate" "I cheated because the sun came out that day"

I mean you name it the blameshifting and crazy making excuses are endless and nonsensical. I'm doing well but it really just sucks being alone in the healing process because "They're troubled" and it's your fault the relationship didn't work. It's no one's responsibility to fix you but your own. Come to that realization. Get well. Be better people from this. Goodbye you guys!