Mostly, this post is for my own documentation, and since I’ve already posted about this relationship here why not continue ¯_(ツ)_/¯

We broke up, went no contact for a week, and I agreed to speak with him again when a mutual friend kept being an in between for him to say stuff to me. Was I told to throw out his apology letter when I got it? Yes. Did I? No. I got an apology that made me feel better out of it, and when we started texting again I got even more apologies that went into detail about how he’s currently working on fixing behaviors and stuff etc

This mostly comes down to the fact he’s going sober, with the help of friends and family. No alcohol, no weed, not even vaping anymore. He’s got a drug counselor on top of his therapist, and is about to start more iop/php programs to help with all this(he’s bad at explaining what he’s actually going to bc his parents handle that). I have genuine hope for this, because he usually is pretty good at backtracking and apologizing if he gets irrational about something, just only when he’s sober. (If you’re looking back at my other posts here, pretty much every “incident” and abusive behavior was following alcohol/drugs etc)

It’s been a few weeks texting and calling again, we’ve both agreed about what he needs to work on and I’m seeing concrete proof that some progress is being made in the areas of being self sufficient, not needing to be treated like a child and ofc the sober part. I also have set very clear boundaries about what we’re allowed to talk about, and how hanging out will happen.

This includes stuff about sex, other people we’re seeing, drug and alcohol talk, as well as managing expectations. I have refused to walk on eggshells around him these past weeks too, and so I’m hoping everything just goes according to plan and we can just hang out and talk about baldurs gate III for a couple hours, I’ll update after.