At what moment did you realise it is not ok anymore? It is not worth it?

For me it was when my little Sister with tears in her eyes asked why my partner hated her.

For context: even though I'm biased I can safely say that my youngest Sister is one of the most genuinely kind people among us. Never a bad word about anyone, do unto others as you'd to yourself. All that.

But when my BPDso couldn’t get the reaction she wanted from me she verbally attacked my sister. I can take a lot of crap and still be supportive, but when you hurt others I care about then you are on a path in which you might not be able to ever redeem yourself to me.

I am very ashamed to say that even though that is when I realised it has to stop I still haven't managed to get out yet. But it truly was an eye opener and the start of my uncoupling Journey, and I hope I can end it properly soon enough.