So I have just started seeing a professional (not that kind, the therapy kind) but we havent really gotten into relationships yet. So in all my confusion I turn here instead.

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My partner has BPD and something that occasionally comes up is that she feels the world belittles her. The workplace has a set of routines that are to be followed, they are belittling her making her feel smaller. My family didn't want to hear her bullshit (she called my sister a horrible mother for not having robot kids and my sister confronted her about that statement. She tore me a new one about how my family is toxic and belittles her).

And now to yesterday, my emotional energy is basically out so I have an depressive episode at the moment, which makes me not having energy to do everything as she wants it, hanging out as much as she wants to. And she accused me of belittling her because of this. I didn't understand what she meant and asked her in what way I am belittling her to which she responded that I am just not there for her anymore like I used to.

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I am just so confused by this, how am I possibly belittling her?