I live in a very liberal and diverse area, I've grown up and lived around all different kinds of people from all walks of life, the people in this city are proud that their city ranks high in diversity. The reason I mention that is because some people grow up very isolated and conservative and aren't always taught about how important mental health is, and empathy towards others. I was whether I wanted to learn about it or not and I'm glad I did regardless of the pain I feel now. After my multiple experiences with close friends and lovers with BPD both professionally and self diagnosed, I find it hard to empathize with others the way I used to. My empathy was always taken advantage of. They saw my empathy as a way to gain my trust over and over again after hurting me. I hated how it felt like an endless push and pull. I would forgive and forgive and they would always keep record of the times I didn't react the way they wanted me to inside their mind. If they did something wrong to me I was supposed to understand them and cater to them so that a misunderstanding wouldn't happen again, if I did something that upset them I would be blamed for how they felt and would have to deal with walls and walls of text about how I made them feel even if it was never my intention to hurt them. I tried so hard to help people I thought were my friends by giving them advice on how to do better or change their life, especially if I saw them getting into relationships with people that were bound to use and hurt them. Instead they saw me as a threat to their relationships. I just assumed that friends tell each other the truth even if it doesn't feel good, I quickly learned that people with BPD have a hard time processing criticism even if it's delivered in a gentle manner. I go back in my mind wondering if I could have worded things better or had a kinder approach, but then I remember they never held back all the times they decided to be passive aggressive towards me. It's all head games

All that being said, I can't stand the people that enable them. I'm not victim blaming anyone who's been in domestic violence because I know how hard it is to leave. I'm talking about the people who watch others get bullied, harassed, and manipulated by those with BPD and cluster B issues. People that watch others abuse animals and anyone in their way and just turn their head as if they didn't see it. Complaining about people and gossiping doesn't mean anything, you could save a life by intervening or at least offering help. Using someone's trauma as an excuse to always feel sorry for them isn't helping them, if anything it only fuels the worst of them because they know they will always be able to have simps and flying monkeys just to defend them. No one stays a child forever, if you want to actually do something good as a bleeding heart maybe you should fucking refer them to some kind of treatment where they can talk about how they got messed up as a child so they stop spreading their pain everywhere. Whether it's popular people online or horrible people I used to know, it feels like the bad people always get away with it and there's suckers that fall for their facade and are always ready to white knight them and don't care about anyone they hurt until they personally get hurt by them. If you see something say something ..