Relationship with BPD significant other just ended. Need advice

Hi guys, so I was in a relationship with someone with BPD for 3 years. That has recently ended. It was my fault as I was unfaithful due to my insecurities regarding the relationship and my tendency to self sabotage (I am diagnosed antisocial personality disorder)l . Since the rupture there has been a whirlwind of exchanges between me and her. Everything from love bombing, to slander and her making threats. I do truly care about this person. In fact until my own bullshit got the best of me and led me act like an idiot I believed we were going to spend out lives together and that was something I truly wanted. She recently told me she hated me and cut all contact stating that "there's no room for me in her life the way I am now" and that if I was ever going to be forgiven I would have to change, which granted is a fair statement. I am currently in therapy trying to understand and eliminate my shitty behaviours so I can one day potentially be with this person again. I know it's going to be a long hard road but I'm willing to travel it as I do believe we were meant to be. My question is this. Am I setting myself up for heartbreak once again? Is there actually a way back where we can reestablish the trust and do you guys think that there can be actual love between me and this person ever again? She often referred to me as her person and I'm crushed by what I have done and will literally do anything to prove to her that I can be the man she deserves. Any advice would be helpful.