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(CW) I feel like he's pushing me away - but is he?
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My (2X NB) bpdso (25M) has been feeling pretty emotionally "flat" and withdrawn since Saturday or so. Saturday he decided to spontaneously take a tab of LSD; for most of the trip he was feeling fine and goofy. Then he withdrew to his room for the next couple of hours, and later told me he was dealing with some inner demons - which I'm assuming he's speaking of emotional problems. He won't open up to me about what specifically - but that's okay! His feelings are his own. I've been feeling like he's bored of me, but he reassured me that he isn't. Last night, however, after some heavy drinking, he started going on a tangent about how me staying at home and not going out much (I'm WFH, car's AC is out) isn't good for MY mental health. He started telling me I need to go out and do things on my own more. He's worried I'm not happy. He wouldn't listen to me that I am happy with how things are.

All of this being said: I feel like he's trying to push me away. I'm worried about confronting him about it, because he's more than likely going to shut down and start self-loathing, and probably make whatever his "inner demon" problems are much worse.

But am I reading this wrong? I'm not really sure what to do with this; Help is very much appreciated.

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That's the thing, though: If I want to go out on my own and do something, I certainly will. Heck I've got a concert coming up soon that'll just be me. I do have friends to hang out with on my own, and I have. He has his own friends to hang with, his own biking meetup group, and a social group all of his own that I don't want to encroach upon. We don't need to completely inject ourselves into every facet of eachother's lives. I DO respect his right to independence and encourage it even. Time for himself, especially, I reassure him it's completely okay. I get how important being alone can be for him - and it is for me too!

Trust me, I have my own things to do on my own, and so does he.

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Correct, he's the pwBPD.

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