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Hey everyone im very confused right now and im deciding if i should just terminate this and move on with my life or continue if this is not bdp..
You can reach my prior post but what happened is essentially this
We flirted alot on texts She referred to me as the guy she was talking to We were friends for 4 years prior The week of a date we started talking much more heavily ily how much u mean to me etc etc Day of we were both anxious this felt diff from our other dates We finally found a flow and started cuddling again etc I tried to kiss her in front of a group of people but she pulled back i had a feeling i came on to strong
The end of the night she said i love you so much but had to leave early cause a mutual girlfriend wasnt feeling well. The next day she texted me that she doesnt feel for me romantically that shes sorry if she gave me that impression. I was taken aback but told her no worries apologies for making you feel uncomfortable and i will see you around.
She replied no need to take it to that extreme that we should still be friends
I didnt reply
Two days later She texted me the next day are we really not going to be friends? I didnt reply
The next day she texted me
I’m really disappointed at how you’re treating this.. Being friends, I should be able to let you know if something bothers me and we can acknowledge it and move forward. It doesn’t need to be friendship ending and I shouldn’t feel like I can’t tell you if something makes me uncomfortable just for the sake of keeping the friendship. You are important to me and I like being able to support you and I don’t think that needs to change because of one night?
I actually got ptsd vibes from this text dating someone that used to have it. So i didnt reply just out of fear.
After a week a mutual friend told me she ran into her and that she was really upset and mentioned being upset at were we are at. She deleted all her social media. The next day i felt bad and texted her im sorry i just needed some space lets talk soon we should talk. A week passed no response so i texted her again apologizing and saying lets talk it out. Then another week passed no response. I texted her this monday a deeper apology and no response.
Finally today she responds two days later
Hi I’m so sorry I have been non stop this week getting ready for . I really appreciate you taking the time to put that together and I appreciate your apology. My concern was less about what actually happened and more about how you handled it after. It made me feel like the only reason you wanted to be my friend was if there was a chance for something physical which made me sad bc I genuinely value your friendship. I respect you and your feelings and hope we can just move forward from this and be friends again.
Hope you’re doing well!
I just feel like wtf like nothing happened and i feel we didnt talk about any of our issues. Im honestly just drained at this point but want to see An opinion.
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