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I've been struggling so much with what's real and what's made up by my mind.
My boyfriend was the most romantic person when we met, he made everything possible to make me fall for him. But now it feels like it's hard for him to be romantic with me and that hurts. It feels like he doesn't love me anymore...
Whenever I bring something bad from the relationship up he gets upset very quickly as if I wasn't allowed to say what makes me uncomfortable. I know that part of this is that he's exhausted of everyday hearing me end our conversations with something negative (and of course, in return he also ends them in something negative) but now I feel like I can never talk about negative stuff, like him not being romantic enough.
I started a "21 days of detachment path" and it feels like I'm starting to do it. I don't want to leave him, but I want to stop making him the center of my life.
He says that he loves me. He shows me interest because he's always texting and calling and asking about me. But what if he knows that he'd lose too much if he left me? what he's just with me because I'm a good partner and not because he loves me? :( Because at the same time he hardly ever asks back when I ask him stuff like "did you eat already?" or pays attention to the things I say on the phone that are important to me... when we're together it doesn't feel like he's excited to see me anymore and I want to be the bright light in his days.
Anyways, any thoughts dear people?
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